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If you’re a new mom, there is a few things you may have Google’s such as:
1.How to get my baby to sleep through the night (click here for reference)
2. How much coffee can you drink while breastfeeding (click here for reference)
3. How much wine can you drink while breastfeeding (click here for reference)
4. How often do you really need to wash your hair. (click here for reference)
You get the picture. Ask Google these questions and the page will be full of information because all new mom’s have been there. (click on the questions above to be directed to the websites I found most useful.)
One questions that is asked more often that is never really talked about is
1. How to find new mom friends. (click here for reference)
Its hard getting out there and meeting new moms; one reason, we are all hiding from the lack of sleep and showers we’ve had since our bundle of joy arrived. Second reason, we have friends, they just aren’t around and we are hanging onto those friendships.
No matter what age You are, what your situation is, or how often that friend, or group of friends, were there during your pregnancy, once that baby arrives, you will grow apart from them and that’s okay.
I was known as a social butterfly before becoming a mother. My friends and I would hit up the local bars, hang out in big groups for Sunday Funday and I had at least 5 group conversations going on about upcoming plans. Those friends all came to my baby shower and would ask how I was doing and if I had my baby yet. They were all sent my little emoji filled message that stated my water broke and congratulated me when we announced her arrival on social media.
Fast forward 16 months later, a majority of those friends have never seen my daughter in person. Some still text on holidays and there are about 5 that still make an effort to plan a monthly lunch or dinner.
The hardest part was one of my best friends. She has kids, so having one of my own meant play dates and a stronger bond. She was there for me during the good and bad. But now, the older my child gets, the less I see or even talk to her. It could be I moved 45 mins away and work has her busy. Or I don’t reach out to my friends as often because I’m picking up toys and food off the floor for the millionth time. No matter the reason, we have grown apart and although it’s sad to lose friends, I’m still happy.
As a mom, friendships mean everything to you, but if they have no positive gain in your new lifestyle, you will learn to let them go. I have now found new mom friends in my area with children around the same age as my daughter. It wasn’t easy but it is possible. In reality, it is a lot like dating. So much so, they have an app for it. (You can get more info here, and if you find me say hi!)
I will always appreciate the friends I have had, during those times in my life, they were exactly what I needed. I love the friends I still keep in contact, they understand we are at different times in our life and when I go a month without saying hi, they don’t hate me for it. I also love my new friends I have created. At this time, I don’t know where these friendships will take me, but I know we are in for some wonderful mom moments together and I’m excited for my next friendship journey.
So today’s motivational quote is
“Sometimes your circle decreases in size, but increases in value.”
Whether you are a new mom, veteran mom, or just someone going through major changes in life. It’s okay to lose some people from your circle, it’s making room for the new members you have yet to meet.
To all my friends who I have ever had, I wish you well in life and even though we lost touch, I still think about each and every one of you.
You can also find me pouring here.